Some truths

I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. 1 Cor 11:3

The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. 1 Cor 7:4-6

When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly.... Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered 1 Pet 2:23; 3:7

Some thoughts

Headship. Not dominating the other but protecting the other.

Authority. Not commanding the other but empowering the other.

Honor. Not subservience to the other but exalting the other.

As we recognize the existing order of empowerment, untrusing ourselves to the one over us, then we can make requests, letting God bring about the right result.

Some applications

My wife's responsiveness to me will parallel my responsiveness to Christ.

Christ wants me to know how amazing is his love for me by his ability win my loving submission to him and find in him astonishing joy.

Thus, as I entrust my case to him, and intercede for my wife, I can expect that she will be drawn to me as I am to Christ, and she will find with me more joy than she knew was possible.